In the middle of the night, tears are rolling down my face as I read what President Biden said on Monday evening as he marked the "truly grim, heartbreaking milestone” that more than 500,000 Americans have died of the coronavirus.
"That’s more Americans who have died in one year in this pandemic than in World War One, World War Two, and the Vietnam War combined,” he said. "That’s more lives lost to this virus than any other nation on Earth.”
But after noting that unwelcome measure of American exceptionalism, he immediately pivots in his comments to each person who’s been lost.
"We often hear people described as 'ordinary Americans,'" he says. "There’s no such thing; there’s nothing ordinary about them. The people we lost were extraordinary.”
As I’ve written these blog posts, I’ve often thought what an off-the-mark phrase “ordinary Americans” is. And it seems that Biden implicitly knows this. And I’m not sure how many modern presidents actually have known it. Regardless of where they started, by the time somebody becomes president, they’re a member of the elite. They’ve often, through no real fault of their own, lost touch with the public, from whom, after all, an entire Secret Service exists to protect them.
Yet each and every person is an expert in their own experience, extraordinary in their own way. The homeless person has as much to teach me as the president does.
But this president's multiple tragic losses of family members seem to have given him a particularly profound understanding to share with us.
"For those who have lost loved ones, this is what I know,” he says: "They’re never truly gone. They’ll always be part of your heart. I know this, as well — and it seems unbelievable, but I promise you: The day will come when the memory of the loved one you lost will bring a smile to your lips before a tear to your eye. It will come. I promise you. My prayer for you though is that day will come sooner rather than later. And that’s when you know you’re going to be okay — you’re going to be okay.”
Biden supposedly has been elected president because he’s a decent guy with empathy. But what surprises me about his comments is just how real and deep his respect for each person seems to be. Given a president’s power to lift up or cast down, that’s an important quality — and one I find particularly touching at this time in our national life.
Here is the full text of Biden’s comments.